FEELING CONNECTED
To me, feeling connected always feels "right". I can really feel it when I don't feel connected and it motivates me to find out why and to attempt to reconnect.
If I try to connect with someone and they cannot at that time connect, I can still connect (hold them in love, in silence, in that "field" that *Rumi talks about). But the circuit completes better and feels better when the other person(s) can be open to connection.
Another thing I can do is to examine myself and see if I am the one causing the disconnection or feeling of disconnection. For example, I might ask myself if I have some sort of judgment concerning this person that gets in the way.
Sometimes there is a feeling of a "break" in connection because we or the other person is centered in some problem or challenge or mind set or belief that captivates them and keeps them from getting outside of themselves.
Sometimes connection has to do with our relationship with not just persons but the situations and events in which we find ourselves. For example in my case, right now I have a spouse who is seriously (and the doctor's say) terminally ill. At moments when I get angry that this disease is cheating both of us out of the love and enjoyment of each other and life that we could have had in these retirement years, I feel disconnected. It's okay to feel that way but the disconnection feels not right and motivates me to reconnect within myself once I have expressed my feelings. It is like being for healing rather than being against or raging at illness. Do you see? Another example is being for peace rather than fighting against war. To be for peace feels "right", you feel connected; but if you are for fighting war or anything, it feels differently, you feel disconnected.
Maybe using the terminology “connection” and “disconnection” isn't quite the best one to use. Use whatever word fits best for you but if you pay attention next time you "fight" something and then pay attention when you reframe it to be FOR something (i.e. first fighting illness then turn around drop that and put your thoughts and energy on health/healing instead). Which feels “best”? Which feels “right”? In any case, it is more healthy in the long run for your mental and physical health. You can’t always do it though. Men and women in our armed forces cannot afford to be for peace when waging war. That will more likely get them killed. But they can be for being safe than against being killed, yes? And maybe what we can say is we can still reframe even in a limited circumstance.
I think when we feel connected we are then feeling one with all that is and we are strengthened by that.
We can always resume connection anytime we feel the connection is weak. We always have a choice.
*Rumi: "Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing
and rightdoing there is a field.
I'll meet you there.
When the soul lies down in that grass
the world is too full to talk about."
If I try to connect with someone and they cannot at that time connect, I can still connect (hold them in love, in silence, in that "field" that *Rumi talks about). But the circuit completes better and feels better when the other person(s) can be open to connection.
Another thing I can do is to examine myself and see if I am the one causing the disconnection or feeling of disconnection. For example, I might ask myself if I have some sort of judgment concerning this person that gets in the way.
Sometimes there is a feeling of a "break" in connection because we or the other person is centered in some problem or challenge or mind set or belief that captivates them and keeps them from getting outside of themselves.
Sometimes connection has to do with our relationship with not just persons but the situations and events in which we find ourselves. For example in my case, right now I have a spouse who is seriously (and the doctor's say) terminally ill. At moments when I get angry that this disease is cheating both of us out of the love and enjoyment of each other and life that we could have had in these retirement years, I feel disconnected. It's okay to feel that way but the disconnection feels not right and motivates me to reconnect within myself once I have expressed my feelings. It is like being for healing rather than being against or raging at illness. Do you see? Another example is being for peace rather than fighting against war. To be for peace feels "right", you feel connected; but if you are for fighting war or anything, it feels differently, you feel disconnected.
Maybe using the terminology “connection” and “disconnection” isn't quite the best one to use. Use whatever word fits best for you but if you pay attention next time you "fight" something and then pay attention when you reframe it to be FOR something (i.e. first fighting illness then turn around drop that and put your thoughts and energy on health/healing instead). Which feels “best”? Which feels “right”? In any case, it is more healthy in the long run for your mental and physical health. You can’t always do it though. Men and women in our armed forces cannot afford to be for peace when waging war. That will more likely get them killed. But they can be for being safe than against being killed, yes? And maybe what we can say is we can still reframe even in a limited circumstance.
I think when we feel connected we are then feeling one with all that is and we are strengthened by that.
We can always resume connection anytime we feel the connection is weak. We always have a choice.
*Rumi: "Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing
and rightdoing there is a field.
I'll meet you there.
When the soul lies down in that grass
the world is too full to talk about."
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