THERE'S NO PLACE LIKE HOME
There's no place like Home
What is home exactly?
For me "home" is a non-local place of reference that affords me a base of operations with some level of continuity, security, and comfort.
When a major life change happens no matter what it is or when it is or how old or experienced you are and no matter whether you desired it or not, your "home" gets shaken up to say the least. For a while you walk around in semi-familiar surroundings feeling and behaving more like a displaced person with semi-amnesia than the person you were before this major earth-shifting event took place.
You've been blown off course and you aren't sure where home is anymore. You aren't even sure in which direction you should set out in order to find it. Somewhere deep inside you, you realize but won't admit at first, that the home you had before no longer exists so you must set sail for distant and unfamiliar place where your new home awaits you.
At first you anguish and mourn and grieve for your home until little by little you accept that you are now writing a new chapter in your life from a different desk in a different room in a home you cannot even find. If your home was lost to you because you made deliberate choices and looked forward to the change you are ahead of the game. You have an edge on those who were thrust into the change out of a tragedy. In any case, it takes time to adjust to major changes in one’s life.
What can help in the interim? Where the loss is a physical home, a job, a marriage, a relationship, health, limb, income, youth, or other object or subject which gives one a sense of identity, security, and purpose including losing a spouse or other significant relative or friend, one needs to find purpose. We identified ourselves in many ways through our purposes. In realtionships we are given purpose. One looks for meaning and purpose now that things have changed. One looks for enough familiar things to hold onto for security until the adjustment is much further along. One thinks as much as possible of opportunities rather than what is no longer available. We also look for love - both to give and to receive. Love is connection. Love is knowing that in our aloneness we are not really alone. In our feeling of separation, we are not separate. Love is the power that creates and holds together the Universe.
Most of all an adult on his/her own must realize that the only real “home” is within. For some of us it is finding that Power within that can do all things and from which all things come. Some call that goodness names such as God/Jesus/Buddha/Allah/the Force/the Universe and others.
Some might attribute this strength and power to their own human abilities and determination. That is certainly part of it because without our intention, desire, or willingness the Power has no conduit for Its flow. I cannot say one way or another with 100% assurance; but, in any case this determination and acquired ability is probably part of the process whether or not one believes that it comes from one’s self or unseen Power or Presence.
In order to heal, the process must unfold and our cooperation is essential. A child would be blessed to have an adult around who understands this. An adult would be blessed to understand and/or to have others around who do. It is in the helping of one another that we all are healed.
What is home exactly?
For me "home" is a non-local place of reference that affords me a base of operations with some level of continuity, security, and comfort.
When a major life change happens no matter what it is or when it is or how old or experienced you are and no matter whether you desired it or not, your "home" gets shaken up to say the least. For a while you walk around in semi-familiar surroundings feeling and behaving more like a displaced person with semi-amnesia than the person you were before this major earth-shifting event took place.
You've been blown off course and you aren't sure where home is anymore. You aren't even sure in which direction you should set out in order to find it. Somewhere deep inside you, you realize but won't admit at first, that the home you had before no longer exists so you must set sail for distant and unfamiliar place where your new home awaits you.
At first you anguish and mourn and grieve for your home until little by little you accept that you are now writing a new chapter in your life from a different desk in a different room in a home you cannot even find. If your home was lost to you because you made deliberate choices and looked forward to the change you are ahead of the game. You have an edge on those who were thrust into the change out of a tragedy. In any case, it takes time to adjust to major changes in one’s life.
What can help in the interim? Where the loss is a physical home, a job, a marriage, a relationship, health, limb, income, youth, or other object or subject which gives one a sense of identity, security, and purpose including losing a spouse or other significant relative or friend, one needs to find purpose. We identified ourselves in many ways through our purposes. In realtionships we are given purpose. One looks for meaning and purpose now that things have changed. One looks for enough familiar things to hold onto for security until the adjustment is much further along. One thinks as much as possible of opportunities rather than what is no longer available. We also look for love - both to give and to receive. Love is connection. Love is knowing that in our aloneness we are not really alone. In our feeling of separation, we are not separate. Love is the power that creates and holds together the Universe.
Most of all an adult on his/her own must realize that the only real “home” is within. For some of us it is finding that Power within that can do all things and from which all things come. Some call that goodness names such as God/Jesus/Buddha/Allah/the Force/the Universe and others.
Some might attribute this strength and power to their own human abilities and determination. That is certainly part of it because without our intention, desire, or willingness the Power has no conduit for Its flow. I cannot say one way or another with 100% assurance; but, in any case this determination and acquired ability is probably part of the process whether or not one believes that it comes from one’s self or unseen Power or Presence.
In order to heal, the process must unfold and our cooperation is essential. A child would be blessed to have an adult around who understands this. An adult would be blessed to understand and/or to have others around who do. It is in the helping of one another that we all are healed.
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